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If we are to be honest about it, the first time kiss can be scary regardless of whether it happens to be the first kiss in life or the first kiss with a particular (attractive) partner. Thankfully though, there are a number of things you can do to make the first kiss less daunting, and turn into the enjoyable experience it is actually supposed to be. In order to have a great experience as far as your first kiss goes, you have to overcome the anxiety your harbor about it. If you are too anxious about it, then chances are that you won't get it right. Thankfully, there are a number of things you can do about your anxiety as far as your first kissing goes. The first is to remember that nobody expects you to be perfect at it; except, perhaps you yourself. In as far as you can overcome the 'performance pressure' as far as your first kiss goes, you will find that you have overcome most of the anxiety that comes with such performance pressure. Remember, nobody expects you to make a perfect kiss; the only thing expected of you is a decent, enjoyable kiss. The second thing you can do to overcome your anxiety as far as the first kiss goes is to keep it in mind that your partner is only human and that what you are feeling about the same experience is probably what they too are feeling. And the third thing you can do to ease the anxiety that you are bound to have about your first kiss is that the first kiss is only one facet of the relationship; and there are many other equally important and enjoyable facets to the relationship that you can still get to partake of, even if you can get your first kiss absolutely perfect. When the time for you to actually make the first kiss finally comes, it is essential for you to do a number of things. The first thing you have to do, as far as the first kiss goes, is to psyche yourself up in a bid to boost your self-confidence. Remember, one of the main functions of the kiss in the courtship game is to gauge the partners' confidence so that if you can be confident when making that first kiss, then chances are that you would have aced that part of the test. And contrary to what many of us imagine, one's self confidence level is not absolutely beyond their control, as it is considerably affected by one's conscious thoughts about themselves and their competence at what they happen to be doing. When the time to actually make the first kiss finally comes then, it is essential to ensure that you come across as a confident lover; because the best way to flop in kissing is to do is timidly. Closely related to confidence is poise, as another important facet of first time kissing. Ensure, when the moment to make that first kiss comes, that you don't get rushed in it. Rather, be sure to take your time, hold your partner passionately (which does not mean roughly), and kiss them as gently and with as much emotion as you can marshal and who knows, the first kiss you so make could just turn out to be unforgettable to both you and your partner. Needless to say, of course, are things like the facts that you need to ensure your breath is fresh when you go for your first kissing (consider chewing mints if you have doubts); and that you generally smell fresh, perhaps with help of some nice cologne.
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