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Many of us struggle with with premature ejaculation because we are too quickly aroused during sexual intercourse. The best way to control premature ejaculation is to learn how to control your arousal. In order to do that you have to first control the emotions and thoughts that cause your arousal to get to high. Intense arousal is the beginning phase of the ejaculation process. There are certain emotions and thoughts that will put you down the road to early ejaculation before you even begin. Lets take a look at some of the emotions and thoughts that lead to early ejaculation...and what thoughts and emotions we need to cultivate instead. First, you should never perceive sex as a big deal or special occasion. This causes you to get overexcited which aids in the release of ejaculation inducing hormones. Whether you have sex often or not, don't make it a big deal and don't get too excited. From now on try to perceive sex as a daily habit...even if it isn't. The next thing you need to do is get rid of performance anxiety. This is when you are nervous or fear how you'll perform. There are a few different ways performance anxiety or fear can cause premature ejaculation. First, if you go into sex afraid and thinking you'll perform badly then that's exactly what will happen. The mind is a powerful thing. Your thoughts affect every aspect of your life including how you experience sex. You should always go into sex with no fear and have a clear, calm, and confident mindset. This may be difficult after having many bad performances, but you have to try your best to stay confident. Thirdly, you need to keep your head clear of certain thoughts and words. For example, never think or say to yourself anything related to premature ejaculation or having an orgasm. If you think or worry about ejaculating then that's what will happen. When you think about ejaculating you are tricking your brain into thinking you actually want to ejaculate. Another thought to keep out of your mind is the thought of how good the stimulation/sensation feels. If you focus on how good the sex your having feels it will surely lead quickly to a heightened arousal and then to premature ejaculation. Instead try focusing on your breathing by concentrating on breathing slow and deep in intervals of 3-6 seconds. This should help you to keep your mind away from thinking how good things actually feel. You may not be able to last an hour right away in bed, especially for those who have struggled with premature ejaculation for a long time. However it is realistic to expect to last 10 to 15 minutes after a few days of putting into practice just a few simple steps like learning to control your arousal.
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